Inner Confidence - A lightbulb moment

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At the gym the other a little while ago I was listening to

Jen Kirkman’s podcast

and she mentioned that at school she always assumed she was right and the other kids were wrong. For example, if the kids hated her shoes then she would just think that they were idiots with no taste, that she was the one with awesome taste. This struck a cord with me as I tend to be the opposite, wondering what is wrong with me and what I can change. A friend had also mentioned something similar a few weeks before, saying that she never takes that look on someone’s face or their attitude personally, she just assumes that they are having a bad day. Again I am the opposite, tending to wonder what have I done to upset them. 

This realisation, that other people don’t internalise things the way I do has been more than a little life changing. I shouldn’t always be wondering what I have done to upset people or thinking that my clothes/hair etc aren’t good enough. I need to be confident in my behaviour and instead think that they are the ones with horrible taste or that they are having a bad day. I can think about what I can do to make their day better but I don’t have to wonder what I have done wrong because the answer is more than likely that I haven’t done anything wrong!

It really made me think that I sure don’t want to be instilling that kind of self doubt in Lulu at all. I want her to be confident and assured in her taste. I want her to have empathy for other people but I don’t want her to internalise other people’s behaviour and attitudes. I want her to have Jen and my friend’s confidence - and my new found confidence. 

Do you internalise everything or do you have a well developed inner confidence?

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Comfort Zones & Paper Prawns

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This past weekend I was in Byron Bay for SPLASH: A weekend of creative workshops and conversations. A weekend spent totally outside my comfort zone. I am not that great at small talk and I don't think of myself as a creative person, yet something about the line up of workshops appealed to me and I signed up for the lot and here I am. By myself, branching out, meeting new people. I read somewhere that when you are at these types of things you should just remind yourself that everyone else just wants to be approached and made to feel welcome. So that is what I have endeavoured to do. I have met many wonderful people, had an absolute ball & have created a few lovely things.

The first workshop was call Things of the Sea and was presented by James Gordon. A little champagne, some paper, great instruction and before you know it we had made a paper prawn. I should point out that James did get a little annoyed at us all for talking too much and taking too long to finish the prawns. We took so long that we went half an hour over time & didn't get to make the coral or sea urchins! James did show us how to quickly so I can make them at home another time.
So much laughter and such a fun filled evening. If you get a chance to do a workshop with James, jump on it.
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